Moving toward Happyness

Happyness

I truly believe that each and every one of us is in a constant search for happinesss.  Whether we associate our being happy in terms of business/career success, material things, our personal relationships or all of them molded together, one thing that remains completely in our control is the ability to constantly put forth our best effort everyday.  I’ve had some incredible time for reflection over these past few weeks in which I was able to re-define my own definition of happiness.  Here are 3 points of reflection that stood out to me when I began to think about how to find happiness in my own life:

  • Self Esteem –  This is the foundation of which we build our own individual happiness on.  The way we see and how we feel about ourselves helps create an environment in which the choice to be happy can be consistently re-inforced and consistently built upon.   Think of this as the foundation to your dream home.  Building the foundation on weak ground can only lead to major problems down the road.  Our self-esteem includes the combination of qualities, virtues, behaviors, characteristics and qualities that you admire in yourself and others as well.  Happy, successful and fulfilled individuals have a very clear vision about their self ideals.  They know what they believe, who and what they stand for, and have a clear vision of how others seem them.  This is done through constant relfection in which they are able to clearly identify the virtues and values through which they believe help construct happiness in their lives.  Take an hour every week, to constantly define, re-define and affirm the values that help you to build a solid foundation of self-worth and confidence in who you are. 
  • Personal Pride – One of the key factors that relates to personal fulfillment and happiness is having pride in the work that you are doing.  Everyone in our society admires and applauds an excellent performance, whether this be in business, relationships, music, sports or acting (just to name a few).  Everyone also knows that the second best or average performance is not awarded, admired or respected by anyone.  Each day that you choose to do your best in all aspects of your daily agenda, this helps to build a sense of pride and accomplishment deep within your soul resulting in profound feeling of happiness that can affect not only our own attitude and outlook on life, but that of our colleagues, loved ones and people we interact with on a daily basis.   Choose to put forth an outstanding effort and have complete confidence in the performance you exhibit each day, knowing that it is worthy of appreciation, admiration and praise from your chosen audience.
  • Decision Time – In the words of Zig Ziglar, “Our attitude determines our altitude”.   At a certain point in the road, each of us has (or needs to) make a decision that we have complete control over our attitude and how it relates to our own happiness.  For me, the key to deciding what happiness means in my life has been to take some time to reflect on what is important in my life.  Much of the discussion surrounding happiness in life didn’t come down to material things, elaborate vacations or business ambitions (as myself and many that know me might think).  Instead it had more to do with the ability to feel fulfilled, grateful and happy in each experience that I encounter on a daily basis.  We’re all blessed with an incredible opportunity each day to pursue our passions, express love to those around us and create new memories that we can cherish forever.  Make the right choice everyday going forward.

One last thing to remember.  If you are constantly and consistently doing your absolute best, you’ll never have time to worry about the failures that occur along the way.

Below is one of my favorite scenes from Will Smith in “The Pursuit of Happyness”, who consistently exemplifies an over-the-top and outstanding performance in everything that he does.   Perform at your best, surround yourself with great people, choose to be happy and your efforts will not go unnoticed.  ENJOY! 

Luck, Success & Action

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Luck is quite predictable.  If you want more of it, take more chances. Try or do more things.  Take more actions.  Get busier.  Start a little earlier, work a little later.  Put the odds in your favor and take a leap of faith everyday.

In the words of the great leader General Douglas MacArthur, “There is no security on Earth, only opportunity.”

“The work of an…

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“The work of an Entreprenuer is to wonder. To imagine and to dream. To see with as much of him/herself as she can muster with possibliites that waft about in midair someplace there above her head and with their heart. Not in the past but in the future. That’s the work the entreprenuerial personality does at the outset of her business and at each and every stage along the way. I wonder. I wonder. I wonder. Just as every inventor must. Just as every artist, or every craftsperson, or every phsyicist must. Just as every baker of pies must. I call it Future Work. ‘I wonder’ is the tru work of the entreprenuerial personality.”

“I Wonder”  — Adapted from Michael E. Gerber, “E-Myth Revisited”

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“Treat your body like a temple, not a woodshed. The mind and body work together. Your body needs to be a good support system for the mind and spirit. If you take good care of it, your body can take you wherever you want to go, with the power and strength and energy and vitality you will need to get there.” — Jim Rohn

Overcoming Your Fears: 3 Tips

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I heard a very interesting conversation the other day with some very successful individuals, and the question was brought up “If you could tell your younger self one thing, what would it be?”  There were a variety of responses, but one of the top that stood out from me was about the ability to conquer fears or obstacles and take risks.  As I thought about this topic, I looked back on my life so far and have realized that majority of the time, fear is a self-created internal emotion that is really meaningless.  The great part about the human mind & body, is that we all possess the ability to overcome our fears.  Here are a few tips that I’ve used over the years:

1.    Recall your successes. We’ve all overcome countless obstacles to become the person you are today, whether it was learning to ride a bike, start a new business, ask that special someone on a date or tackle a new challenge such as going back to college.  Anytime we look to conquer new experiences or challenges, they always feel a little scary at the beginning. But when you face your fears head on and take action, you build the foundation of confidence that grows exponentially with each fear you face. By doing this, you teach yourself that fear is something that is only internal, and we all have the ability to re-create the story that that we have told ourselves about our ability to overcome the mental roadblocks we have in place.  Whether you realize it or not, we all have had some successes in life.  The key is to identify those and build around those for your future achievement.

2.    Choose a positive mental image.  We all have images of which come to mind when thinking of the word “fear”.  When we’re afraid, our minds are full of negative thoughts, images, sounds and even experiences from our past.  The key here is when you are feeling afraid, lock onto the images in your head. Then choose to replace them with a positive image of your desired outcome.  Think deeply about the experience and visualize you coming out successful on the other end.  For example, if you’re afraid that starting your own business will end in bankruptcy and losing your house with all your peers laughing at your failure, instead picture your new business becoming wildly successful and buying a second vacation home on the ocean with all your friends coming over for a celebratory party!  By controlling the image in our mind, we can internalize success and take action to overcome negative and fearful thoughts that are holding us back.

3.    Focus on the physical sensations. We’ve all had the feelings come front and center: Sinking stomach, sweaty palms, tightening shoulders and elevated heart rate (no I’m not talking a heart attack, although it might feel like one).   For me, this one comes to mind when I think of public speaking.   I’ve found that by taking a moment to fix your mind on a physical state of calmness, success and confidence you re-align the body’s internal mechanics to a new state of being where you are in complete control of your physical & mental systems.  It’s incredible the control that we gain over our body when we understand why we are having certain feelings of anxiety, stress and fear.

Fears, obstacles & taking risk come to light in many different forms for all of us throughout our lives.  Recognize that YOU have the incredible opportunity to face obstacles and conquer your fear head on by pursing opportunities and experiences that are out of your comfort zone.  The earlier you start to address what you are scared of and why it is an obstacle to your success, visualize the outcomes and take action, the more momentum you will create for yourself moving forward.  Then when you address your life and reflect 20, 30 or even 40 years down the road, you can look back knowing that you overcame what was holding you back and achieved your full potential in business and life.

Excuses & Success

 

  1. Do you really want to be successful?
  2. Who and what have you blamed for past failures?
  3. What are the excuses that have prevented your from moving forward?

I always enjoying reading insights from Robert Kiyosaki.  I especially appreciate the message in his most recent blog post about taking personal accountability for our own successes and failures.  We as leaders, must realize that before we can ‘fix’ others or blame those around us for our situation, we first must look at ourselves and ask the question “would I follow this person as a leader?” and accept that we are the ones that have made the decisions that have gotten ourselves to our current point in life both good and bad.  Don’t let excuses prevent you from living an extraordinary life and embrace the reality that YOU have ultimate control over your thoughts, actions, beliefs, words, decisions and outcomes.